Life Values Assessment

Screen Shot 2014-04-13 at 10.18.37 PMThe top 5 values that I chose are family, health, personal development, friendship and independence. They are definitely what I care about everyday. I am an international student coming from China, so my parents live far away from 8,000 miles. I talk to them through social media everyday. Today, I sent my mom a photo of my dinner. I wrote, “Hi mom, I will increase weight for sure! Have you seen my dinner? I cooked two dishes just for myself.” My mom replied, “I’d love to see your ‘awesome’ home-made dinner. ” Last week, I had flu and got fever for four days. My parents worried about me, and they wanted me to take good care of myself. They said, “We can’t do anything when you are sick except keeping calling you. We are worried about your health.” No matter how old I am, I am still a child in my parents’ eyes. “Family” is the most important thing for me though I have been left them for four years. Also, they care about my health very much, so I should focus more on my health not just for myself, but also for my family. Meanwhile, I am a senior student, so what I need to pay more attention to is personal development. I’m keeping in touch with my professors and advisors to figure out what I really want to do after graduation. I’m preparing GRE test and planning to apply a graduate school. Furthermore, maintaining and building good relationship with friends also brings me happiness to my busy life.

These values are listed as the top 5 values that I chose today. I am sure “family” and “health” will be No.1 & 2 for a long time. However, what other three values will be tomorrow? If my wallet is lost, “security” will come to the third one. If I have a design assignment due tomorrow, “creativity” might be one of the top 5.  Therefore, my leading or major values cannot be always the same. As time goes by, I guess my personal values would experience some fluctuates then tend to be stable.

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How do we define value? As the author says, “value is often used loosely, it should be synonymous with personal evaluation and related beliefs, especially personal evaluations and related beliefs about the ‘good’, the ‘just’ and the ‘beautiful,’ personal evaluation and beliefs that propel us to action, to a particular kind of behavior and life” (7). I agree with him that one’s values are based on personal evaluation and related beliefs. Some people may think our values are instinct. However, the author also indicates, “human beings are not primarily driven by genetically determined instincts but are rather free to make their own choices” (7). That is to say, human values can be changed as the development of human being themselves and other conditions such as time, places and interpersonal communication.

If value is not instinct, how does it form? The formation of value can be influenced by our parents. For example, I am very clear about how to distinguish “good” and “evil”. The criteria of judging “good” and “evil” is my personal value. Where does it come from? It comes from my parents. Since I was a little girl, my mom told me Snow White was good, the Queen was bad; my dad told me the angle was good, the demo was evil. Once they told me, I believed and remembered what they said. In the fact, I automatically defaulted the criteria as my value. Of course, some values are changeable when you go to a new place and meet new people. The surroundings will affect one’s values. Four years ago, it was my first time to visit the United States. I defined myself as an “employee”, a “good employee”.  I had never thought I would be a “boss” someday. In other worlds, I don’t want to be a leader in a group because I didn’t want to mess up. Nevertheless, I joined HuaFeng magazine, a Chinese student-run magazine of University of Oregon, in my sophomore year. I was an editor and writer in the first two terms. When I started to learn design and editing stuffs in my J-school classes, I found my potential ability in design. At that time, HuaFeng magazine was looking for an editor in chief that had both editing and design skills, and then I became the new editor in chief. My updated skills and the opportunity pushed me to change my old value and embraced new challenges. I gained very useful experience and improved my communication skills. Therefore, our values are not permanent, and they are developing all the time.