I’ve never actually really thought about how I dress or customize my look, but now looking at it, I dress unique to my personality. I wouldn’t really say that my dress reflects any religious or political beliefs, but I would say that I believe I dress for me and not for other people. Many people sometimes dress to impress and buy only designer clothes and accessories. While that may be fun to treat yourself sometimes after a big paycheck, it’s just not for me.
For starters, my favorite place to shop is Forever 21. Their clothes are fun, hip, cute and significantly less expensive than, say, Nordstrom. They have genre of clothing, so it fits the needs of many people. I wouldn’t say that I fall into any one genre. In other words, I wouldn’t call myself a hipster or prep. If I see something in the store that I like, and it looks good, then I’ll buy it. I wear preppy clothes, hipster clothes, geek clothes, indie clothes, etc. As long as I like what I’m wearing and can afford it then voila.
I wasn’t always like this, however. In high school especially, I used to really care about what people thought of me. I dressed to impress, and I didn’t mind asking for expensive clothes for birthdays or other holidays. Everything I wore had to have some sort of designer tag because I was trying to prove something to my peers. Now, I dress to impress me. I fully believe when you dress to impress other people, you do nothing but disappoint yourself.
Freshmen year of college was probably the worst for me though. I had just gotten out of a relationship and felt the need to change my appearance. I dyed my hair black and got my nose pierced. However, I wouldn’t say that I did it for myself. I did it because I thought my ex-boyfriend would find me more attractive. This did nothing but disappoint me because there I was with darker hair and a pierced nose, but I didn’t feel better about myself.
One thing that I found funny about how much I have changed since high school is the way I dress on Halloween. You always see girls walking around in basically bras and underwear. To spice it up and make their costume relevant to Halloween, they’ll add a pair of ears and call themselves a cat. I, on the other hand, dressed in a gorilla suit and went out in that outfit. I didn’t care that I wasn’t super feminine. I would rather wear an outrageously funny costume and get laughs than get the negative attention that most girls get when they dress promiscuously.
While I say I don’t dress to impress anyone, I do still have morals. The way you present yourself starts with what you wear and how you wear it. In other words, I steer clear of clothes that are too tight fitting or reveal cleavage. I like to present myself in a way that demonstrates the amount of respect I have for myself. I think that this has a lot to do with the way I was raised. I was born and raised a Catholic, and my parents are very strict Catholics. They made my brother and I go to church every Sunday, and we both attended Catholic grade school and high school. As a result, we were always told to never get tattoos or piercings because it’s a sign of disrespect. If I wore something that my dad thought was too revealing, he would make me change. I wasn’t even allowed to wear make-up until I got into high school. This may be the reason that I always wanted designer clothing because I was trying to prove that I wasn’t just the little Catholic schoolgirl. I actually think that my parents and my ex-boyfriend were the ones who drove me to pierce my nose twice and dye my hair.
Another thing that I have noticed about the way I dress is it’s very Southern Californian since I live in Bakersfield, which is really close to Southern California. Not only do I shop at Forever 21, like I had said previously, but I really like surf shops. My closet contains a lot of Roxy, Billabong, Hurley, O’Neill and Quiksilver. I like to wear my red, green and yellow poncho. I also wear surf clothes a lot because they tend to be more comfortable than a lot of other clothes.
Body alteration is very important to me. What Sanders says about it in the reading, though, isn’t completely true. He says, “Body Sculpting is reshaping the body so as to meet criteria of beauty is a common practice in many cultures.” I don’t completely agree, however. I work out at least five times a week, but it’s not to radiate beauty. I would not know what to do if I couldn’t run when I was stressed. Working out is the one way that I de-stress. It’s also important for health, which is why I body sculpt so much.
Today, my peer community values negative attention through their clothing and personal adornment. As I said earlier, girls tend to wear revealing clothing because they think the attention they get from guys is good. Both girls and guys also tend to have promiscuous piercings and tattoos on their body. Receiving negative attention seems to be valued amongst people my age, but it really doesn’t make sense to me. Girls don’t have to wear revealing clothing to get attention because there’s this other thing I’d like to call having a personality.
I definitely used to fall into that category, but I have realized over the years that I am happier and feel better when I dress to impress me, and me only. C.R. Sanders says, “A person’s physical appearance affects his or her self-definition, identity and interaction with others.” My physical appearance doesn’t define me, in my opinion. It merely shows the amount of self-respect that I have. This affects my interactions with people because I don’t feel disappointed in myself if I don’t “impress” people with what I wear.