The light turns red and a line of cars come to a stop. Tan Ford. Black Ford. Red Ford. Blue Toyota Corolla. Black Ford. Tan Ford. Gray Ford. A young woman with blond hair sits inside the Toyota looking straight ahead trying to ignore the angry looks of the passes by and the man in the Ford car next to her. “What are you doing driving that Japanese car! You are the reason I don’t have a job! You are destroying Detroit,” a man yells at her window. Deep breath in, exhale. The light finally changes. It is 1978 and the young woman is my mother. It is her first day in Ann Arbor, Michigan. She is only 23 years old. All her belongings are neatly packed into that Blue Toyota, the only Toyota on this block, and maybe it seemed like the whole state. Just weeks before her one year long volunteer job with AmeriCorps VISTA helping families in poverty in Levittown, NY had come to a close. She had spent the last day driving from New York to here in her trust car, Seemore. Just another trip to add to the list of places “See more of the country” had taken her. It was now time for a new adventure. An adventure with a plan. Step one establish residency by finding a job in social work. Step two apply to grad school with said job in social work. And step three make a world of change.
Find a place to live. Without a plan for a living situation or a job my mother had packed her bags and driven nine hours to a new state with a whole lot of determination.
“What am I thinking?” my mother mumbled to herself. Down the street was a guest house. She had experienced poverty with her work in Levittown, but never lived it herself. The mindset of the other inhabitants were a harsh reflection of the economic times. Their daily concerns were not what to make for dinner, but where the next nights stay was going to come from. My mother did not share their desperation because she knew if things did not work out here she could always go home. She did however share a determination to survive. She would not be returning to Houston, TX where her parents and two brothers had moved three years ago. No, she would be proving her independence and living life on her own.
After two nights at the guest house, it was time for a change. The Y, where she swam every day, offered inexpensive housing. That would work for the time being. By day three my mother found a job as a waitress at a expensive hotel. The shifts started early, but it was there that she made her first friend. The friend was short and her dirty brown hair fell to her shoulders in uneven layers. Her face was kind and her actions reflected it. She was about three years younger than my mother. It didn’t take long for her to figure out my mother’s living situation was not ideal. With a generosity only a special few have, she invited my mother to come live with her and her mother until my mom could afford an apartment to move into.
My mother had never been in a trailer park before, let alone a trailer home. With such a show of kind thoughtfulness and the prospect of a friend to talk to on the way to work in this new city, my mother said yes. She spent one week living with the brown haired girl and her mother. It was just enough time to get on her feet, save some money, and find an apartment. After that week they stayed in contact some, but my mother’s life moved on and now only the memory remained. The first year in Michigan was one of the most challenging times for my mother, but the graciousness that this family still remains with her today over thirty years later.