“I just always assumed you were my sister.”7 Ashton told me after I asked what he thought family meant. I started to nanny for Ashton and Avery years ago. “If Avery was my sister and I spent every day with her and loved her then why wouldn’t you be my sister too? I spent every day with you. You played with me, you helped me with homework, and sometimes you bother me, just like Avery.” 8
8 Ashton [Last Name Redacted for privacy], face to face discussion with me, November 23, 2017