Posted by
bcrooks@uoregon.edu on Wednesday, April 29th 2015
When people watching, admittedly I was on campus, I saw a couple different groups of people. The first could most easily be described as your stereotypical American Bro. Then, I saw a group of employees and friends of employees hanging out in front of High Priestess Tattoo, as you might have guessed they were pretty entrenched in the body modification scene.
My initial reaction to seeing this loud, obnoxious group of guys hoot and holler down the street, with everything from their dress to their movements to their actual speech screaming, “Look at me and tell me how awesome I am!” I will not pretend that I do not have a bit of a bias toward this particular group (I worked at a campus bar for 5 years and they were consistently the worst people to deal with). There are diamonds in the rough I know, but they always seemed to be the exception rather than the rule. I won’t go on and on, but I think this article http://www.vice.com/read/this-american-bro-an-ethological-study captured it pretty well.
The second group of people in front of the tattoo parlor, were covered in various degrees of tattoos and piercings, most of which to the extent that they would not have been able to hold a corporate job ten years ago. Times are changing, and I agree that they should, but who knows what will be socially acceptable in most circles ten years from now. My assumptions about this group is that they have a strong desire for individuality and non-conformity. Though the ironic thing being they are conforming to a group norm, that group is just a minority for now.
As different as these groups are at first glance, I think they have so much in common. I believe, that they both have a desire to be noticed and stand out in a crowd, but at the same time having the very normal human desire to belong.
I’ve gone a little long, but for those of you that stuck with me this far I’ll end with this. I think that the way I dress and act on a daily basis is “right.” Before it sounds like I’m getting too high and mighty, I would argue that we all hold this belief whether we admit it or not. If you thought that the way you dressed was ridiculous or inappropriate or merely unattractive, wouldn’t you change the way you dress (assuming you had the financial freedom to do so)? Unless of course, that was what you were trying to do, and make a statement of some sort. If you are at a restaurant and you realize you are speaking (in your own opinion) too loud, do you not lower your voice? All of this is to say that we all act in a way that we think is the best way to act. This concept of “proper behavior” comes from a multitude of influences; family, friends, media, religion, etc. and is usually constantly evolving. I find it nearly impossible not to judge at all, and if you’re honest with yourself I think you’ll agree. If you disagree with me, here’s my challenge to you:
If someone with intense body odor sits next to you on the bus, is your only reaction to think, “everyone is entitled to their own standards of personal hygiene.”
If someone at a restaurant at a booth behind you is speaking so loudly about their latest sexual conquest that it is difficult to carry on your own conversation, is your only thought, “everyone is entitled to whatever volume at which they wish to speak.”
Somehow I’ve taken a body modification topic and turned it into a post on civil liberties, so I’ll leave you with a common quote attributed to many different people, but I think I found the true source even though it might not be verbatim.
“Your right to swing your arms ends just where the other man’s nose begins.” ~John B. Finch
(If you want to talk about irony, I sell beer for a living and this was a common war cry for the pro-prohibitionists)