Growing up, I attended a private school for elementary and middle school, where uniform was worn daily, and where the term free dress day was almost as special as snow day. First through fifth grades wore khaki pants or shorts with dark red shirts, and sixth through eighth grades wore khakis and navy blue shirts. Each shirt had to be stitched with the school logo, and there was certainly no going around that. Girls were also allowed to wear skorts, comparable to a skirt, but with a pair of built-in shorts. Needless to say, this was not the most flattering look for younger girls and boys who were just beginning to figure out exactly who they were.
A great amount of criticism came from outsiders who claimed that school uniforms impinged upon individualism, but at the time, I really didn’t know any better. In response to these claims, I can remember school officials stating that a uniform kept things more formal, and because our school was located in an area with a high incidence of crime, uniforms made it easier to keep an eye over students at recess or when passing between buildings. In my opinion, safety is a greater priority than individualism, but limiting the development of individualism is never ideal. Certainly, we found other ways to express ourselves, for example, through hairstyles or shoes. In addition, requiring uniformity of dress code left little room for judgments of students’ economic class, of which I think wardrobes are often indicative.
Aside from school uniforms, I have always been interested in dressing and presenting myself well and in an attempt to stay up-to-date with the latest fashion trends, reflecting my value of awareness. I would certainly say my look is on the more conservative side, which reflects my introverted character. I do not often wear bright colors because I do not like to have much attention drawn toward myself, and I simply think that neutral colors are easier to match. I have never tried dying my hair because I have always felt content with its natural color. I do enjoy experimenting with new hairstyles, which I find to be a more subtle way of expressing individualism through hair. Long hair has always been my forte, and I think this consistency is representative of the consistency I prefer in everyday settings.
Once in high school, and relinquished of my private school uniform, I enjoyed a greater degree of customization in my dressing and body adornment. I balanced days spent in sweats and hoodies with dressier days that included outfits pieced together more deliberately. I preferred wearing clothing that was somewhat fitted to show femininity, but that was loose enough to preserve dignity. I enjoyed wearing T-shirts, sweatshirts, and sweatpants from various volleyball teams, which seemed to represent my valuing of athleticism and physical health.
Personally, I am not a fan of excessive body piercings or tattoos, but I can understand why so many people are keen about them. This diversion, I think, is the result of growing up with parents whom were always very vocal in their disapproval of tattoos. The values of both of my parents, along with my two sisters, have had an immense effect on my personal values. If I were to ever get a tattoo, it would have to have great significance and deep meaning for me. When I think of objects or people who have such a great impact on me, I think of my family, and I know that not one of them would want me to celebrate them with a tattoo.
In the peer community I am surrounded by today, values certainly vary, but a few can be specified as core values. Among these are fitness, comfort, acceptance, and diversity. It seems that workout fads are coming and going more quickly than ever, and I think the prevalence of workout clothes in the fashion industry accompanies this movement. My peers, for the most part, are heavily concerned with their physical health, and as a result, basketball shorts and yoga pants seem to be in just about everyone’s wardrobe. Comfort is just as prevalent, in terms of material and fit, as well as feeling comfortable with one’s appearance and self. Along with this comes acceptance. For the majority of young adults, acceptance is always being strived for, and this is reflected in personal presentation. There exists an unspoken competition to stay up-to-date with the latest fashion trends and hairstyles. One day, it is the high-low skirt and the next is the ombre hair coloring. Lastly, diversity seems to be heavily sought-after. Just as much as we want to be accepted, we also want to diversify and differentiate ourselves as unique from one another.