University life has not been an easy lifestyle change. Being away from friends and family is hard, especially the cultural change from Hawaii to Oregon. For me, it’s always been hard to adjust to a new place with new people. But eventually, I found myself with a core group of people and a sort of understanding of “this is my life now” and I got to get used to to it as well as make the best of what I have and try to have a fun time. Overall, I find myself enjoying it here but there is still that part of finding a core group of people that I don’t think I found yet. I don’t really have any close friends that I could consider reliable, or people that I can open up to. This may have to do with the fact that I’m still really wary and still trying to get a hang of how people are here, which is much different from home. I keep telling myself that I have to be more friendly and a lot more open but every time I try, it’s just so hard because my fear of embarrassment or shame or overstepping my boundaries always get’s in the way. So that is still something that I am trying to change. Right now, I’m trying to do so but I’m still a little reserved.
What I do like about myself, though, is that through it all I’m always friendly. If someone comes to me first or strikes a conversation, I’ve always been friendly. I have a firm belief that everyone deserves kindness and that a first impression is important. So if I want a person’s first impression of me to be positive, I have to act positively. Once I’m comfortable with someone, it’s so much easier for me to be open with them. So I want to take these steps, even if they are small, to become a more approachable and conversational person.
In a few years, I hope I can become more extroverted. I want to overcome my fear of embarrassing myself and just put myself out there. There are so many people at this school to meet and friends to make that just because I might not get on with the first person I talk to doesn’t mean I’m doomed to fail every single time. I’ll try to connect with people from my classes and and strike up conversations to make friends with people around me. If I got to parties, I’ll talk to more people rather than just sticking to my original group. I’ll be the one to approach rather than wait for someone to come to me. I will overcome my fears and grow into the person I want to be.